How to Know a Person

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A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person in order to foster deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives—from the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain

As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.”

And yet we humans don’t do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to?

Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and his determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and from the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception.

The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.

一本实用而真诚的指南，教你如何真正了解他人，从而在家中、工作中以及在我们的一生中建立更深层次的联系——来自《纽约时报》畅销书《品格之路》和《第二座山》的作者

。如果你要关心一个人，你必须首先了解他们。如果你要雇佣、娶某人或与某人交朋友，你必须能够看到他们。如果你要与某人密切合作，你必须能够让他们感到被认可和重视。正如大卫·布鲁克斯所观察到的，“我越老，就越确信，任何健康的家庭、公司、课堂、社区或国家的核心都有一项技能——能够看到彼此，了解其他人，让他们感到被重视、被倾听和被理解。”

然而，我们人类在这方面做得并不好。我们周围都是那些感觉自己是隐形的、被忽视的、被误解的人。在《如何了解一个人》一书中，布鲁克斯着手帮助我们做得更好，提出了对我们所有人都至关重要的问题。如果你想了解一个人，你应该对他们投以什么样的关注？你应该进行什么样的对话？你应该关注一个人故事的哪些部分？

在好奇心的驱使下，布鲁克斯从心理学和神经科学领域以及戏剧、历史和教育领域汲取灵感，提出了一种受欢迎、充满希望、综合的人际关系方法。《如何了解一个人》帮助读者对他人更加理解和体贴；它帮助读者找到被人关注的快乐。同时，它为一个被分裂、敌视和误解所撕裂的社会提供了一种可能的补救措施。

布鲁克斯认为，看另一个人的行为是一种深刻的创造性行为——我们如何才能看着某人的眼睛，在他们身上看到一些伟大的东西，从而在自己身上看到更伟大的东西？《如何了解一个人》适合任何寻求联系、寻求理解和渴望被理解的人。

作者简介 · · · · · ·

David Brooks is an op-ed columnist for The New York Times and appears regularly on “PBS NewsHour,” NPR’s “All Things Considered” and NBC’s “Meet the Press.” He teaches at Yale University and is a member of the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. He is the bestselling author of The Social Animal: The Hidden Sources of Love, Character, and Achievement; Bobos in Paradise: The New Upper Class and How They Got There; and On Paradise Drive: How We Live Now (And Always Have) in the Future Tense. He has three children and lives in Maryland.

大卫·布鲁克斯是《纽约时报》的专栏作家，经常出现在“PBS 新闻一小时”、NPR 的“万事皆知”和 NBC 的“与媒体见面”节目中。他在耶鲁大学任教，是美国艺术与科学学院院士。他是畅销书《社交动物：爱、性格和成就的隐藏来源》、《天堂里的布波族：新上流社会及其成因》和《天堂之路：我们现在（以及一直以来）如何生活在未来时态中》的作者。他有三个孩子，住在马里兰州。

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